In the last seven days I’ve dealt with illness, heartbreak, jarring news and some really unfortunate realities about life. But I own none of it.
I have one friend who got her heart broken by her husband.
I have another who reached out to an estranged family member in an effort to reconnect. She got the door slammed in her face.
And one is dealing with his disease; a debilitating disease that we all know won’t get any better.
So in the last seven days I’ve listened. I’ve given advice. I’ve held the hands of those I care about and discovered this: I don’t have the answers. Because sometimes, there are no answers. Sometimes we can do everything ‘right’ in life, and still, we don’t get a happy ending. We get, a raw deal.
And I don’t know what to do about this. I don’t know what to think about this. I don’t know how to process it.
Because I love a happy ending.
Give me a novel where the protagonist overcomes challenges and comes out victorious, and I’m all in. I loved Jane Eyre. The Secret Life of Bees. Eat, Pray, Love.
And if it’s a movie, I’m a sap for inspiration. Think It’s a Wonderful Life. The Blind Side. The King’s Speech. I could name at least 20 more (Miracle, Soul Surfer, The Pursuit of Happyness…). You get the picture (no pun intended).
But as I see what’s happening to those around me this week, I have to admit, life is not always like an after school special (remember these?) or a novel or an inspirational movie. Many of us have a story that doesn’t/won’t have a happy ending.
And as strong as my faith is, as much as I know God has a plan, even as I know eternal life will be so much better than this earthly one, I still don’t get it. Or like it.
So today I am mulling. Thinking. Trying to figure it out. But…I’m getting nowhere.
I typically am one who looks for the silver lining. I hope for the best, I look to the good, and I count my blessings. And it helps. Gives me perspective. But still, sometimes the randomness of it all, the pain I see those around me go through, it gets to me.
So as much as I’d like to tie a bow of encouragement around today’s blog post, I simply don’t have one. Do you?
Do you have a way of dealing with pain? With unfair circumstances? With staying positive in the midst of tragedy? If so, I’d love to know it. Love to learn the secret. Love to really understand how others cope with unhappy endings.